How can I save my failing long term relationship?
We’ve been dating for just about a year now and have had a pretty smooth relationship, save our one big problem: internet gaming. I hate games like WoW and Everquest and he simply can’t get enough. Rather, he’s completely addicted. He’s since quit but now has what we call "attacks" nearly every day. He gets depressed and moody for long periods of time most of the time resulting in a minor argument or me in tears because I’m scared I’ve forced him to change. However, I still stand firm that if he’s addicted he shouldn’t be playing. He doesn’t think he is, but can’t be happy without the stupid game. How can I save us?
I know one year is not long term. However, we’ve already discussed long term plans (i.e. living together, possible proposal, etc). So by long term I mean, we’re going to be together for a long period of time, possibly even till death do us part.
He is actually addicted. I have psychology degree so I’m not just flying by the seat of my pants.
I’m not co-dependent and have plenty of my own hobbies.
He has a large amount of hobbies he has replaced the gaming with. The problem is he still suffers from depression due to this game.
And no, I am not a family marriage therapist. I work with little kids, so this is completely out of my range.
He has to save himself in order to save the relationship. You arent the one with addiction so there is NOTHING you can do do to save the relationship. You have to convince him to get help. Its either your those damn games. Tell him to cut back on his playing time. If he cuts back a little each day then he will eventually stop being addicted. Why dont you both take up a hobby together, that way he isnt playing video games and you two can have time together.
The most beautiful , passionate and fulfilling relationship human beings can have is marriage?
Whether it is live in relationship , contract marriage or a traditional marriage. But why we treat such intimate and caring relationship so casually ? people protect their business interests by putting in huge efforts and indemnify themselves against threats and competitions, Take care of health by insurance and exercises. Even bother about friendships. But why we just ignore to care , protect and insure marriage which is the most satisfying and delicate bond in our life and allow to get it affected and destroyed so easily?
No, marriage is just another form of abuse. I stood before God and made a promise and meant it, my husband stood before God and lied. I took years of abuse from him and his family, while he shut me out and focused his attention on other women. He cheated on me and went to his church,, told his priest a bunch of lies so he could get remarried in his church, and just like that I was out of a marriage. I went through marriage classes, work books, retreats to get married, to get divorced I didn’t even deserve the dignity, self respect or self worth of even the basic counseling. He just came home from work, announced he filed for divorce and two months later I was homeless and jobless and trying to pick myself back up. I had no say in the divorce, he and his priest came up with the divorce and the terms of the divorce. I don’t see how I am supposed to throw away 21 years of my life just like that. I had no say in the divorce, these men just came up with it, and now I have to pay for the wrong they did. I got cheated out of so much, and treated like a piece of trash. I wonder the same thing you do, how do you just throw out someone like they are nothing but garbage, and then expect them to magically survive. marriage is just more abuse.
Why were government, religion and marriage important problems for Elizabeth I on her accession?
Come on, look at what her father did. He created a totally new church just so he could divorce one women and marry another. The people of England needed to know if she was going to pull the same stunt figuratively speaking. Also she needed to be married because, while not unknown, there were not many female monarchs. Back in Elizabeth’s time, and up until about a hundred years ago, women were considered the "weaker" sex.
Marriage HELP!?
I live in Canada and my boyfriend is an immigrant from Cameroon. His papers are soon to expire, and he feels the only way to keep him in the country is for us to get married. He’s 27 and I’m 21. He hates me because I won’t marry. And I feel horrible that I’m about to lose him. I feel like I am in a lose-lose situation. Any help would be greatly appreciated!
you can’t marry him if you are not ready…..sounds smart to me….are you sure he wasn’t just looking for someone to marry so he could stay……if it’s love, you won’t lose him, he’ll go back to Cameroon and keep in touch until he can go back to canada to see you again……
You sound like a 21 year old that has her head on straight….don’t let him talk you into something or manipulate you into doing something you don’t want to do.
need some advice marriage seems elusive? help?
I have a friend and she is having problems with her boyfriend. Her boyfriend keeps talking about marriage but hasn’t been consistent with his statements about marriage. Sometimes he all for it and then other times he says they may have to postpone it for a while. My friend really loves this man and wants to marry him sometime while we’re all still young. He is even talking about buying a place next year and marrying her so doesn’t that mean he should ask her now so they will be engaged for that amount of time? Any advice? He’s 25 and my friend is 24.
Sure. Tell your friend to stop pushing the issue, and you are FAR from being "old". To be honest, the chances of any marriage lasting is much greater when both people are 28 and over. Marriage is HARD, and not something that should be taken on just because you feel you should within any kind of time frame.
What if marriage was taken out of government?
marriage is a religious event, but the gov is treating it like it’s not, and turning a once beautiful thing into a contract that the wife or husband can divorce and ruin the life of the former spouse. And, there would be no gay marriage debate because marriage would not exist according to the government.
And it’s one way to keep the government out of our lives.
I hope you are not a lawyer. Your plan would put a lot them out of business. Sounds good to me.
what are the different attitudes towards marriage from male and females?
Im writting a paper for this subject but my mind is blank and I need help please help!!any suggestions are great
Well the whole monogamy issue is different from each perspective. Females want monogamy more than anything because marriage is a union in which most people have kids… They need a man to support them. As for a guy, the only required commitment is really 15 mins in the bedroom. Of course, many men do stay with their wifes… Just there’s still cheating and everything. Just the female gets screwed over more.
Can anyone provide the script of man and woman which is spoken in a christian marriage?
It is pretty urgent and i would like even if you post some link…
Take your pick …
http://bible.org/article/sample-wedding-vows
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Our dog helps with a marriage proposal!
Our GSD, CJ carries the engagement ring to the unsuspecting bride to be. Liza and Dan are friends of ours and Liza just loves our dog CJ. Dan asked if CJ could be part of this surprise and I was happy to help out! Liza had NO idea what was going on. 
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