my boyfriend and I fight and have gotten physical how can we communicate better and save our relationship?
we have been living together and we jumped into a really deep right away. I love him more than anything in this world I just dont know how to get our love back from where it was. We have just gotten a lot more stress in our lives but I want to get this fixed now.
You made the right choice of living with him before taking it to the next step and getting married.
You might think you love him, but now you really know what your relationship will be like in the future. You need to sit down by yourself, make sure you a relaxed, and think about your relationship with him for a few hours.
Ask yourself if it is really worth saving, and ask yourself if you really do love him, or is it just puppy love.
If you really do love him, then go see a counselor, or you could tell him that you want to take a break and let him miss you and remember how good he had it.
Just remember, just because you love someone, doesn’t mean you were mean to be together.
What is the MOST men your women can be with before you CONSIDER an intimate or serious/marriage relationship?
Opinions PLEASE?! Why are some guys so attractive to women that have been with hundreds of men? and some no?
How many have Madonna been with? and Cher?
Can you men consider being with a virgin? or would they even consider "being" or "touching" a woman that had plenty of men? would they get angry if they did not tell them?
I was a 1970 Hippie-If met a virgin back then-she lied about it! I would worry if I was starting to mount and a hand popped out to help me in!
BUT THAT SAID: this is a great question-just too many answers. I have sex in the here and now. If I’m loved by my female-then that is all that really matters to me-those before are of no real concern to me-she wanted me-not them.
Now all those kids from past lovers-that’s a whole nother issue!
marriage problems with George and the first lady???
I keep hearing from people that the president and his wife are having marriage problems. I have not heard this. Can any shed some light on this ?
The Washington based media will not touch this topic for their own personal safety. Wayne Madsen’s website reported during early in 2007 public scenes of Bush during alcoholic rage and his abuse of Laura Bush. She was resorting to a sleeping overnight in a reserved hotel suite (Mayflower Hotel in Washington) to escape his abusive ways. Madsen holds the Washington press in utter contempt for lacking the guts to report what they witnessed on several occasions. Mrs. Bush is said to have agreed to hold off divorce proceedings until 2008. Madsen now requires paid subscription to view his site but its out there to find on the ‘Net.
Help me out here. I am doing a debate soon and my topic is gay marriage, and I am the negative….?
give me some reasons as to why gay marriage should be banned in the united states please!!!
[besides the Holy Bible says that marriage should be between a man and a woman....]
Your gonna lose man. There aren’t any other reasons than that. Some say diseases and such, but that’s true of heterosexual relations as well. And morality is a void arguement because it’s not universal. Sorry, but good luck.
Marriage advice for the younger generation?
If you could give marriage advice to the 20-somethings about to get married…what would it be?
I’m asking because I didn’t comprehend what it meant to be married…especially that young. I know now…but not sure what I would tell others contemplating it.
Marriage is not dating. When your mad or whenhe/she says somethind stupid you cant just avoid that person for a while, or decide you don’t wanna "date" anymore.
marriage is not all love and passion. It’s dirty dishes, smelly underwear and bad breath.
Marriage is not co-dependancy. It’s two independant, strong people who now stand stronger as a team, but that does not diminish each others independance.
Marriages do not come pre-package with the happily ever after ending. You have to be open, honest and upfront about your goals, strengths, and weaknesses in order to devise a plan to get there and stick to it.
My husband and I DO NOT know how to communicate w/each other. What can I do to help our marriage?
O.K. I’m going to start with an example: My six year old was looking in the freezer for her cup of ice cream and couldn’t find it. My husband and I were sitting in the living room and since he was the one that put her ice cream in the freezer I asked him where it was. He said "In the freezer." I said "Where?" He then looks at me like I’m stupid and smarts off (I can’t remember exactly what he said.) So I said, "See this is what I’m talking about, you always talk to me like that." He says "Well look at what kind of questions you ask!" I meant was it in the freezer door? on one of the top shelfs? etc. These kinds of little arguments happen between us daily. I tell him all the time that he wouldn’t talk to anyone else like that even if he thought their question (or comment) was stupid.
O.K. so then after he speaks meanly to me, I can’t help myself and I smart off back to him and of course a whole argument begins. It’s a vicious cycle. We just DO NOT know how to communicate with each other!! I’ve asked him to go to counseling with me and he refuses (most of the time saying we can’t afford it-which we really can’t, but I’d be willing to sacrifice some things to help my marriage), but I’ve also bought us a counseling type CD program and he didn’t ever even open his.
We have two small children and I’d hate for them to have divorced parents.
I have only 1 semester plus student teaching left until I graduate with my bachelor’s degree so I really cannot work right now.
His company laid him off and he is only receiving unemployment right now, so I’d hate to tell him that I can’t take this anymore and he needs to leave.
BUT–I can’t take this anymore!! We are always hurting each others feelings and plus we fuss in front of the kids! I don’t know what to do!! Can anyone please give me some tips on how to help our marriage. I know someone is going to say that I need to be nice to him and maybe it will rub off, but I have tried that unsuccessfully! It’s too hard for me to keep being nice when he keeps being mean, so I’m not good at that!
I do the "live my own life" thing, also.
It’s always been like this-if it’s not the stress from unemployment, it’s the stress from work.
I love the suggestions of just not arguing back b/c that was always my logical answer also, however when I do this he thinks that everything is fine and expects our sex life to continue. I then have to turn him down b/c I do not want to do that with a man who is unkind to me so often, so this becomes the issue then!!
Thank you to everyone who has tried to help me with this. It’s great just to get some feedback and hearing your stories are enlightening also!!
Perhaps you could have answered your daughter by saying "Daddy can help. He put it away for you." Then, he can help his child and you wouldn’t have to guess.
I wonder how it is the two of you came to a place where you are treating the person you love most in this world better than strangers?
The two of you are under a lot of stress right now. He might benefit from a regular workout or a couple of projects around the house. You might benefit from some time just for you.
And, when you do this kind of communication in front of your children you are teaching them what is acceptable. Do you want either of them to accept being spoken to the way you and your husband are speaking to each other right now?
Counseling can come from many resources (Community Services, a religious group or a school) but really what both of you seem to need is a promise to never speak with each other like that again and some individual time to blow off some steam. Best of luck to you all.
International Christian Marriage Agency?
Do you think an international christian marriage agency would be in demand? What is the best way to start it?
Shouldn’t Christians have bigger concerns then who a person marries?
Michelle McGee’s Ex-Husband: We Had Problems in Our Marriage Over Her Obsession with Jesse James
“The Insider”’s Chris Jacobs sat down with Michelle “Bombshell” McGee’s ex-husband Shane Modica, owner of Lucky’s Tattoo Parlor in San Diego, for a new interview to air tonight, March 22 and tomorrow, March 23.
Shane tells “The Insider” that he believes Michelle was involved with Jesse James since May 2009 and that she often referred to James’ marriage to Sandra Bullock as a “sham.”
“According to [Michelle], [Sandra and Jesse] had this big thing going on where they were going to announce their divorce on a certain timeline and she was going to be the next woman,” he said.
He goes on to say, “We had problems during our marriage because of [her obsession with Jesse James].”
Our picture is sitting there taped on her mirror, and I looked it and kind of double-taked and noticed there was something over my face and I looked closer, and its a picture of Jesse James, his head cut out [and] pasted over my face,” Shane said. “I was like, Really, are you serious? And she laughed it off thinking it was funny and said, ‘Its not a big deal, [I] was just doing it as a joke — hes fat, hes ugly, he doesnt have any real tattoos, hes old, and all that stuff.
On the media attention surrounding the alleged affair, Shane tells “The Insider” he does not believe that Michelle is remorseful: ” I know how she works, and it was either end up with Jesse and live that lifestyle and still have the money and the fame, or she was going to make money off this one way or another.
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Fridah Khutbah: Marriage in Islam – Man’s Perspective, Part1
In the name of Allaah, the Most Merciful, the Especially Merciful.
What type of spouse should a Muslim man look for? And once married, what causes can he effect to help bring about a successful marriage. Part 1 of a khutbah on the topic of Marriage in Islaam (Man’s Perspective) by Yahya Cazalas.
And although most Muslim author’s do not care if you use their work for purposes of da’wah, I do want to mention one of the main sources used for this khutbah, “The Ideal Muslim”, published by International Islamic Publishing House.
You can also visit the website for more articles and videos on Islam: http://www.cazalas.com
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Marriage Advice: Divorce Busting 101 – Relationship Goals
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