Please help…sex before marriage question!?
I have been dating my best friend now for 9 months now and this story is a little odd. In the beginning of the relationship he told me we weren’t to have sex before marriage, which was fine by me. Then as time went on he strated grabbing my chest and putting his hands and feet where they don’t belong, (on top of clothing). He tries so hard to turn me on, I swear but he never lets me do anything to him to like return the favor. He’s not into oral and he says he’s afraid of getting me pregnant bc his brother had 7 children and they used a few methods of birth control. Is there something wrong with me or is he really afraid of getting me pregnant bc things aren’t adding up. first it started off with the religious view of not wanting sex before marriage and now it’s he does kinda initial it but never follows through. I tell him about sex toys and other ways to do shit without getting me pregnant and then he refers back to the absinence. WTF is going on here? Plz help me!!!!
i know the answer… hes insecure about something.
Finding Marriage Help With A Resistant Spouse
When marriages begin to face problems there are usually two different sides to the situation. There is the facilitator, who still proclaims their love for their partner and is willing to do anything to correct the issues. The other side is typically a withdrawn and apathetic individual who is not so sure that the relationship is worth salvaging. This combination of opposites makes it difficult to find a resolution that both sides will accept. However, if you are willing to take on the difficult road of the facilitator, then there are ways to save your marriage without the help of your spouse.
Expose the Problems
It can be hard to discuss the problems in your relationship with someone who is not communicating well with you. It is tempting to avoid conflict and hope that things will work out as time goes on. Unfortunately, waiting for a miracle solution is a huge gamble, and you risk watching things get worse. No matter how uncomfortable it may be to approach your spouse, it is necessary to get all of your problems out in the open. You need to know exactly why things aren’t going well so you can work on finding a resolution. Don’t be afraid to bring the topic up in conversation, just be sure to listen closely to their take on things.
Lead by Example
Even if you don’t find yourself at fault for the troubles you and your partner are experiencing, the best way to break down the barriers of communication is by being the first to make sacrifices. By exposing your own faults first, you will give them an opportunity to not only voice their opinion, but it may also open the door for them to admit their own shortcomings. We all know a couple of aspects about our personal routine that irritates our spouse. Show them you are serious about fixing your marriage by offering to make your own changes. In some cases this is all you need to begin clearing the air.
Ask the Experts
If your spouse is particularly withdrawn or resistant to suggestion, then you may have to look outside of your relationship for the answers. The internet is filled with advice on overcoming marriage problems, and some experts have written guides for breaking through to a distant partner. Since it is unlikely that a resistant spouse would go outside the home for marriage counseling, the next best things is to bring the expertise inside the home. By researching the ways that counselors help troubled couples, you can use these techniques to get past the first few difficult steps to opening up dialogue about your problems. The best part is that you can do this behind the scenes without anyone else knowing.
It can be hard to find marriage helps when you are barely communicating with your partner. While the temptation may be to hide from your problems, the better solution is to take action. Focus on finding out exactly what has come between your love, and offer some recourse to improve the situation. It is also important to educate yourself on all of the available solutions by reading the advice of experts. Ultimately, if your love is true and you remain persistent, then you will eventually find the key to saving your marriage.
Elliot Beers
http://www.articlesbase.com/marriage-articles/finding-marriage-help-with-a-resistant-spouse-324071.html
What is best way to get marriage which makes charity work? Only serious answer please. ?
Actually it for my friend and he wants to get married on 10th of April 2009 in India. As he is confuse what to do special on his marriage to help some one ( Poor and needy ). He is from middle class family so he can not afford too much but your ideas and view may give a different way to think about. How to do charity with less money if the intention is good.
Some people ask their wedding guests to make donations in their honor, instead of getting a gift for the couple.
I have heard of weddings where the guests bring gifts that will be donated to a special place – like toys for an orphanage, or money to a good cause.
If he wants to make a donation himself, he should think about what is important to him – children, animals, hunger – and choose a charity that helps with that. They will not care whether the donation is small, it is the thought that counts.
Please help my marriage!?
I am a 23 year old female that has been married to my husband, who is 24, for 2 years. Our relationship is near perfect. He is my best friend who I share everything with and I couldn’t possibly be any more in love with him. However, there is one flaw in our relationship -sex. Our sexual appetite is so far off. Me, I could be happy with just once or twice a week. Him, he needs it every day or at least every other day. Don’t get me wrong, our sex is out of this WORLD. It’s just that sometimes, I’m not in the mood. I feel bad for him because he tries to put the moves on me all of the time only to be rejected. Some days I feel like I’m a horrible wife that is depriving her husband of sex [especially at such a young age]. Other days, I feel like he is being insensitive towards my feelings and just wants an orgasm. I remember at one point he told me to just "let him" even though I didn’t want to. This is the only thing we ever fight about and the only thing we can’t EVER resolve. Please help!
I have no problem with him masturbating and/or looking at pornography. I have even bought him a few toys. Masturbation seems to never satisfy him.
Good question! And you know, I’m sure this is VERY common especially with couples in their early 20’s. Considering guys are peaking around 18-22, and women don’t peak until after 30 typically. Just understand that a man can’t help his hormones, so he can’t help that he’s in the mood so much. If you two are as in love as you say, you are the PERFECT example of how men don’t always "just want sex", it’s not that they don’t love you, it’s just that they can’t help it, and need sex as much as anybody needs food or sleep.
My advice is for both of you to be aware of each other’s feelings. If you truly love each other, you want each other to be happy. When he’s all turned on and needing that release, if you’re not in the mood, there are MANY ways to take care of his hormones. Look at alternatives, but no matter what, continue to show that you care, and he should also about you, if you’re tired or not in the mood. Maybe if you lay next to him and assist him in doing it himself. Maybe you are fine with oral and just don’t want regular sex because it’s around your period. Men love oral! But if you don’t feel like either, then what would you do if your husband was starving or really exhausted? You would want him to be fed or get some sleep, you love him, just find alternatives to help him release that energy.
Compromise. That’s what marriage is all about.
Masturbating by himself is depressing if your wife is 2 feet away or in the other room. Men like their girlfriends or wives to at least enjoy or show interest in making them happy and satisfied. Use your tongue in places, use your hands. Let him finish on you somewhere. To have a loving, submissive girlfriend or wife who does those sorts of things if she is not in the mood or has her period I think is fun and satisfying. A man needs that touch and care from his woman.
A healthy or unhealthy sex life is never the CAUSE of a good or bad relationship, it is always the symptom or result of how a relationship is going. So far it seems like things are good, but that there is some frustration. It’s VERY sweet that you are concerned and want him to be happy.
The whole spiel about having him understand you and that once a week is good and otherwise it hurts or makes you feel cheap, I’m not in agreement on. The other poster seems like they’ve been in bad relationships, or has been molested as a child. In a healthy relationship there is communication and compromise. You should WANT to please him and satisfy him. He should want to do the same for you. Unless you have a severe flu that completely disables you, you should at least lend your hands and kisses.
If there is stress or you feel annoyed, then there are other issues in the relationship that need to be worked out, outside of sex. In which case you would need to work out the other issues before you are both happy with your sex life again.
I agree with the other poster that things can become routine and repetitive. It’s always good to try to keep things fun and fresh. He shouldn’t stop being sweet and trying to get you in the mood. That usually works. I have had the experience myself, and I took her for granted, and stopped being romantic and using soft foreplay. A relationship needs that foreplay and patience. If he’s in the mood, he should know what turns you on and put forth some effort. Soft kisses on your neck or back, his hands giving you a soft massage, gently touching you in places that you like to be touched. Tell him what gets you going! Sometimes a quickie is fun, and practical, for you both, but for the long term, you need to be patient, creative, and thoughtful.
How does interracial marriages affect the traditional views of the Institution of Marriage?
I’m writing a paper on interracial marriage, and i need help with opinions and facts! if you have any please let me know!
Interracial marriages have been going on for thousands of years..doesn’t affect any traditional views of marriage..interviewing an interracial couple would be wise, along with a couple of the same race and interviewing couples of different cultural backgrounds may give you a broader view of marriages
Marriage Help by Mark Tyrrell
From:http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/category/marriage-help/ Mark Tyrrell of Uncommon Knowledge talks about what research tells us helps marriages, and what hinders them.
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I need my turkish marriage booklet translated into English! PLEASE HELP!?
Does anyone know any tranlators who I can possibly send it off to for translation? Prefferably someone who has done it before and knows someone reliable – I dont want it getting lost you see.. Ive found lots of sites which want me to attatch the document to an e-mail but it seems stupid me typing it all out, I could make a mistake, is this the only way its done??
You could ask the Turkish Embassy, Consulate Department, they maybe can give you the names of some reliable translater in your surrounding.
You also can look in the address list and find somebody near you.
or google: Turkish translater in …(city)
Where can i do gay mutah marriage ?
Shalom
I live in london and i want to do gay mutah marriage . Can you help me ?
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group sex in a marriage…my friend needs your help cause i dunno what to tell her!?
ok here’s the thing. my friend and her hubby have been married for 3 years but some weeks ago he suggested that they go to sex clubs or orgies and stuff just to stpice up the sex life and that it’s ok since they are married and giving each other permission. she doesnt know what to do if God will be mad or sometihng and asked me for advice. here’s the thing tho they’ve been married for ONLY 3 years, isnt that kinna too soon to spice up the sex life? like if they agree to do it it’s not cheating or adultery but something just doesnt fit. what do you think, i’m not the one in the posiiotn but i’m confused as hell!!!
Spice is nice, but it doesn’t require additional partners. Anything other than the two of them is adultery, make no mistake.
Why would she give him permission, given that the risk of STD infection is extremely high? why would she give him permission considering that they can spice it up at home?
Consider this…. I have been married for a total of 13 years, and not once have I suggested spicing it up this way. Nor will I.
What do you think about sex before marriage?
It seems like most people, notably young adults, do it before jumping into a long term relationship.
Personally, I wouldn’t do it primarily due to religious reasons. I know most women don’t like male virgins. They like men who are "experienced".
What do you think about sex before marriage? If you married a virgin, would you help your spouse through sex? If unmarried, would you pressure your significant other to have sex. If they decline, would you end the relationship over something petty like that?
PS: Personally, I think if people end the relationship because on refuses sex before marriage is petty, next to one who wants kids and one who doesn’t.
Hmmm… sex can be pretty important in a relationship. It can reinforce your bond, make each person feel loved and desired. And the lack of it can also cause problems. For example, if a guy makes a habit of using porn on the sly and gratifying himself instead of being with his real woman, expect that woman to feel inadequate, sad, and unwanted and your relationship to suffer.
Also, it’s a good idea to be sure that you’re compatible in most regards before tying the knot and yes, that includes sex. I don’t think that it should be regarded as "petty" as you say, but as just one aspect of an intimate relationship. If one person likes it and the other does not, expect problems. If one person wants it far more than the other, expect problems. If one or both people are inhibited and feel sex is dirty then expect problems.
WIth that said, if I married a virgin, of course I’d help him through sex and I wouldn’t think any less of him for choosing to wait, but that’s just me. As for whether I’d end a relationship over a guy’s refusal to have sex- probably not. I would if I suspected he had a negative view of sex or sex hang ups or thought it was "dirty." That would point to psych problems that I’m just not up to dealing with. If however it was part of his spirituality to abstain, then of course I would respect that and not pressure him.
I think one should take a middle road and make sex neither too important nor unimportant. It is important, but certainly not the only consideration.