can I save the relationship if the spark has gone?
I am a 28, me and my fiancee love each other deeply, but the spark has gone, we have been together for nine years, she’s the same age, breaking up is on the cards, I desperatly want to save the relationship, think she thinks the spark is the be all and end all, is she right? can i save the relationship, can i suggest anything that may save it? or do I walk away from my soul mate never knowing …… what if??? ………
Your fiancee is a dingbat for thinking this.
Unfortunately, we grow up on romantic movies where everything is solved with a deep kiss, set to some background music with a sunset in the distance.
This is 100% fantasy. Sadly, you fiancee doesn’t know the difference.
The benefit of not being married is you can call the whole thing off before a commitment is made. But saving this relationship is impossible if she refuses to see reason.
Is she correct? No. She’s been duped.
What you can do is recognize that a) this is not your fault b) there was nothing you could do to prevent it and c) prevention IS possible in the FUTURE.
You need another person who is more grounded in reality.
Trust me, this is horrible stuff right now. But in the future, you’ll be glad you stepped away from this without having a couple of kids in the middle of it.
And knock off this soul mate stuff. That doesn’t happen until you’ve been married for 25 years. You sound like a raw recruit who talks like he’s a salty veteran.
Good Luck!
how to save a relationship?
me and my boyfriend adly love each other but i keep on getting angry at him for small things, and either i tell him and upset him or i keep it to myself. how can i stop being like this? thing is ive never had aagood relationship, so once i do, i keep picking problems as i dont believe this could be real. deep down i really love him. how can i stop being paranoid and horrible towards him, and show him more love?
Okay so me and my boyfriend had the exact same problem. We would fight and bicker about the tiniest things to the point that we almost broke up one night. I love him and I told him we should give each other one more shot, because i knew he was something i wanted. It is all about communication. I started trying to understand his point of view on things. You have to know when you pick your battles, if you fight about every little thing it breaks you both down. Learn to let go of the minute things that really don’t matter. I promise it helps, it improves both of your moods and you wind up going to sleep happy every night knowing he is yours!
me and my boyfriends relationship is ruined :/ ?
okay, so we’ve had a very rough relationship but it got so bad to where we dont even wanna talk to eachother and when we do we fight. like i know im mean to him and when i change he doesnt even seem to care so it sets me off. and he tells me he dont care about the relationship and he dont care if i cheat on him. and i know this is all wrong for him to say but like i dont wanna break up with him i so scared. im part of his family things are just horrible for us. he cant even stand to talk to me! hes even going to hang out with this girl he did stuff with in the past. its driving me crazy. any tips on how to save my relationship?
break up with him. how can a relationship work if the other one is giving up, right? so, it must not only you who’s willing to fight for your relationship, it must be both of you… because though how hard you try, if he already gave up, then what’s the point going forward? in the end it is you who will be hurt and in fact, he’s giving you all the reasons to leave him but you chose to still love him and I admire you for that… you don’t deserve him… find another that will fight for your relationship, not give up on the relationship.
alright last night i went to my girlfriends family house help me save the relationship?
and she said were opposites and we should of been friends longer and i need to say to save the relationship so she can understand she means everything to me
If your relationship with your girlfriend is like your writing and grammar, you need a lot of work. I’m serious. Your shorthand in writing reflects poorly on you. Is this how you actually speak to people? Take your time in life and do things with quality and style.
What can I possibly do to save my relationship?
I’ve been off and on with a guy for 5 years. We only see each other on Saturday due to scheduling conflicts. We have been fighting alot lately: he’s in poor health and I’ve been having problems with conflicts in other areas of my life. He has pulled back emotionally, and I’m desperate for his time and attention. What can I possibly do to save my relationship?
….Off…..On……..5 years….hardly see each other,but fight when you do…….You said ( I’m desperate for his TIME and ATTENTION.)…and in the same question you used the word "conflicts" to describe scheduling meetings. He’s "pulled back"………the last word you said, is the answer " relationship" there isn’t any. Don’t hang on….Move on. Good Luck.
Trying to save relationship. Not sure how to do it. Any Ideas?
I have asked questions before. But anyway My boyfriend and I have been together for about 7 years. We have lived together for about 6 and a half. We have two children under the age of two.
We broke up for like a day, but he said he wanted to try and work it out. I am sure he doesn’t want to lose the kids since I would have to move almost 2 hours away. Anyway things started to get……slow. Like we were just roommates with benefits. We never yelled or anything we just kind of held things inside. Now I am not sure if he is still attracted to me. Should I try and change? I don’t wear any makeup or anything and don’t do my hair anymore. Plus gained weight after the two children. Maybe he thinks I am not girlie enough. Not sure what to do. Need to fix our relationship since I really do still love him. Please some advice.
Yeah, it sounds like you’ve lost yourself girl. However, If he loves you for who you are, that shouldn’t be the problem, but unfortunatly in today’s society with everything being focused on beauty and physical appearences, you do have to try and keep yourself looking good for your man girl. I’m not saying you’ve got to walk around with a full face of make up, but just put on a little lip gloss and maybe some mascara and a cute two piece nighty. Try to spice it up a little because sometimes things can become dull and boring in a long term relationship. I’m in a 6yr relationship and I make the effort to keep myself looking cute. Cook him a nice dinner onenight and put on some sexy music and put those babies to bed a littler early or try to get a babysitter if possible. The fact that he’s willing to work things out is a good sign that he does love you, take advantage of that. Good Luck
What can I do to save my relationship?
Me and my Girlfriend have been together for a while now and her parents haven’t really known much about us… but recently they found one of my note that I gave to her and they decided to say that she cant be with me anymore… Neither of us want to leave the relationship but she doesn’t think that she can handle the pressure from her parents… I don’t know what to do… I love this girl… I want nothing more than to be with her…
if it was meant to be, then you will get back together when your both old enough.
theres nothing else you can really do but wait for each other when you both are 18
What should i do if my best guy firend wants to hve sex and i dont? how do i save the relationship?
To start off im almost 14 and he is 15. We have been firends for about 5 years and now he says he wants to go. So I said yes. Than about a week later this whole sex thing came up and he says if i dont have sex with him he will tell everyone i cheated on him and had sex with his best friend. We are supossed to do it this Friday so i need help fast. I want to save our relationship, at least as friends. Someone please help me!
Whatever you do, please don’t sleep with him. I’m going to be blunt: he doesn’t love you and I’d question whether or not he even cares about you as a friend. A friend, ESPECIALLY as a best friend, would never try to pressure you into having sex by threatening to blackmail you like that. That’s a truly despicable act that indicates a strong potential for abuse. I personally don’t even understand why you would want to remain friends with someone who clearly disrespects you by trying to take advantage of your trust. If I were you, I’d break up with him immediately (like, right now) and avoid him until he starts treating you the way a real friend would.
Save me from myself – show your story (ENTRY) – (NOW with description)
I OWM NOTHING!!!!! ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY!
It’s very, very, very personal. So please, i expect some respect about it.
I don’t have much courage to write a storyline, but basically almost everything is shown clearly on the video.
there was a girl and a boy, the girl did something stupid and didn’t know that the boy was crazy about her. She didn’t regret. The girl grow up, and so many problems appeared (it’s SO MUCH personal to put on this), she was not alone, she has her parents, her friends, but something was missing (still does)…Her family didn’t know what to do, her mother was having so many problems, her father too. Everyone was suffocating her, she used to live in a bubble. Too much protection, too much “don’t do this, don’t do that!!”.
Too much concern about the WRONG THINGS.
Too much “her mothers desiers”, too much “You’ll do this because I said so!”.
Too much loneliness, and yet, full of people around.
She needed to scape somehow, she needed to show the world that her heart was beating, that she could breathe.
She always bled inside.
So she starts bleeding on the outside.
She began to love the boy when she notice that was losing him, but he didn’t care. She began to hurt herself (in every single way), and nobody realized that…That boy used her, screw her up, and she enjoyed it, because it was hurt. It was what she was looking for. Empty.
Later she realized that he wasnt the reason for all those things, he was just a part of it…He was her knife, her pills, her anorexia and bulimia.
She didn’t need him to survive, he COULDNT save her, because it wasnt his obligation, it was hers.
The girl stoped hurting herself. For now.
PS1. Now i’m fine, sooooo much better! My relationship with my mother is amazing, we grew up a lot, together.
I realized now that some NIGHTMARES comes to bring new DREAMS. And I hope that everyone notices that before gets to late.
Everyone have their problems, nobody’s perfect and the life isn’t always colourful and beautiful, but you have to fight, no one else can do this for you. Absoluty no one.
Go look for help, see that person in the mirror and be happy about it, because nothing worths more in the INTIRE world that yourself.
Ok, I’ve just said the same worlds that my therapist had said to me, but, when you think about it, its totally right. It’s hard to learn that, but once you have, everything become happier.
I’m not totally better, I’m not totally safe, because I know that some diseases don’t go alway. Never. Especially that one. When you think it’s over, you realize that she’s just sleeping, and that kills you, but you HAVE to move on, and that’s what I’m doing, this time with a help of my friends and family..
Ps. The thing about my mom is that she didn’t give me a good example, when it comes to food and health. But aftter some years doing therapy I’ve learn how distinguish one thing from another.
ice dance, by danny elfman
save me from mylself, by christina aguilera
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Can you help me to save our relationship?
I am with my girlfriend of 6 months. She just lets medo oral sex to her or fingered her sex. It will neither make nor kiss or make love with me. She asks me what to wait because she is not confident enough. She often comes to visit me without her underwear and take care to tell me, but when i try to approach her she gets upset and asks meto be patient. Id like you maid lighten the situation. I precise i am 25 and she is 22. and we’re not a virgin
PATIENCE