Help My Wife Doesn’t Want Help Me With This……………………?
My wife has says she didn’t sign this for me. Well I have a 18 year old daughter from my first marriage. I just bought her a car 2 years ago and my wife said I should let her get a part-time job so she learns to count on herself and we should just pay part of it not all of it. The thing is my daughter can’t keep a job and I can’t do anything about since she lives with her mom in different state. At first her mom said she will pay for the insurance but at the end she didn’t so I’m paying for insurance as well. Also I’m still paying the child support as well as my daughter’s braces and in a year or so I have to pay for her college and take loans in fact in the process of applying for loans. I asked my wife to co-sign for the loan since she has a perfect credit but she told me this morning she had it and she is so sick of this endless funds and she is tired of working over-time and I either shape up or she is out. Also, I was still make payment for about 6 mo for the old house that I had with my ex so it won’t go foreclosed which it did 3mo ago ‘cause I just could not make payments. My ex don’t work since she is a loser and has 7th grade education. Anyhow, what should I do now my wife insist on leaving me and don’t know what to do. Married 6 years wife 27 I’m 38. I will get another job but in the military and I have to be available 24 hrs beside I get deployed a lot. My wife makes a good money about 7k a mo and her job lets her work overtime and pays her extra while mine even if I stay longer I don’t get paid overtime. Please help I know is not fair to make my wife pay for my past mistakes but what should I Do? Oh me and my wife we do have a 5 year old.
She should leave your loser ass and your loser ex NOW.
You are paying MORE than your fair share. You should only pay half and let your daughter work to make up the rest. You cannot control what your ex wife does.
Stop paying the entire bill for everything. Let the daughter work her way through school….let her get her own loans and do some struggling. Nothing wrong with helping but come on…I can’t blame your wife for being miffed.
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agree with your wife unless you would like to continue to support this child your 18 yr old until she is in her late 40’s and beyond sounds like she is handed everything and is on her why to becoming her mom…
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Why are you paying for your daughter’s car at all? She can get a job and do it herself!
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I don’t blame your wife one bit. Your daughter can’t keep a job because she knows you will bail her out. I wouldn’t have put up with it this long. You need to step back and look at the whole picture. You are just being used big time. Tell your ex to pay for her own way. I don’t care if your wife makes a million bucks a day that’s not your money to give to your other worthless family. If she’s smart she will leave you if you don’t straighten up.
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Oh my goodness. Don’t let your wife leave. She is right. If your daughter isn’t mature enough to hold on to a job, she isn’t mature enough to have a car. You need to teach her to rely on herself. Also, you seem like you feel guilty about something, and thats why you’re sticking your neck out. Your daughter is an Adult, so is your ex. No problem helping them out, but you’re giving to much. Now your priorities should be mainly with you Wife, and son. This is your household now. You and your wife should see a marraige counsolor( just a suggestion). I hope things work out for you’all. Marraige is a terrible thing to throw away over something like this. And, I hope I’m not being harsh by saying this, but be mentally strong. By that I mean "get some back bone" Don’t let people run over you. You don’t have to be mean to anyone, but establish ground rules, for yourself, and obligate family/friends to respect those rules. Hope this helps
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If that girl is 18 then she can take care of herself. don’t coddle her, let her grow up and feel some growing pains.
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Dear God please don’t use the Military as an excuse. Whether you are active or inactive, every employer has to give you time off when you are called to duty!!! That aside.
Your wife is right. You need to ask yourself. At what point do you stop paying for everything and make this child EARN what she is getting???? You need to put restrictions on this car. If no one is paying for it but you, then go and pick it up and not return it until payments are again once given to you. Tough love never hurt anyone!
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She should leave your loser ass and your loser ex NOW.
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I was going to go with you, until I read you still pay for the other house!!!!!!! you are lucky she is still with you. No woman wants to carry so much garbage like that. Man up and tell your 18 y?o she is now responsible for her own insurance and car payments. you are already paying child support. what ever you give her should be a gift, not an obligation.
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you need to cut off your daughter and ex-wife. Not your problem anymore. Your Ex is using the daughter to suck you dry. I bet she laughs all the way to the bank every month when she gets the check from you.
Move on with the wonderful wife you have who hasn’t left your ass over this already.
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