My husband and I are having serious marriage problems.?
We both love each other very much and want to work it out.
Where do we start?
There are many ways to resolve some, or perhaps all, or the issues in your marriage. The first thing you have to be sure is that you want to resolve the problems.
Firstly, in a quiet time of your own, write down all of the things which are troubling you about your marriage. This will help to ensure that you keep on track when you are ready to talk about it all.
Secondly, make sure that when you and your husband are ready to talk that there are no distractions. So send the kids out to the grandparents, put the tv off and make sure the phone is unplugged. Maybe try to put some music on which reminds the two of you of the happy times you spent together.
Thirdly, and most importantly, talk to your husband about how you feel openly and honestly. You can never, ever, ever be criticised for being honest with each other (think back to your marriage vows) and try your best to keep your cool.
Ensure that you afford your husband the chance to put his point across. In every conflict there are two sides, so please be willing to hear each other out.
Don’t bring up old conflicts, try not to make generalisations (such as "you never" or "you always", be willing to confess any mistakes you have made, and above all please, please, keep your sense of humour throughout. Love is based on an ability to be honest, open, humble and through laughter.
I hope everything works out well for you.
talk.
each ask the other for one thing
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Well, how long have you been together? How long have you been married? Do you have any children? These are major factors in things like this.
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Counseling. An objective person to point out issues and clarify conversation.
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communication is key if not then counseling! i guess
or take some time off each other to really see if you both miss each other! a few days
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Marriage consultant.
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I’d say sit down and talk alone. If that doesn’t work, there are lots of counselors and/or therapists. Don’t ignore your problems. That could lead to grave situations.
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Just be open and resolve to not get mad no matter what and just give him a chance and help him understand that you need a chance and start from common ground
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well you need to explain more of the situation.
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communication. affection.
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tell him that you want to start all over with him don’t want to fight with him anymore
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You both need to tell each other what it is you don’t like about the other and what is bothering you. Hopefully, if you want it to work, you can both work on it or comprimise.
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consult a marriage counselor and if that didn’t work out well just think about the memories that you have shared together for years and think about the person that will be disappointed when you guys divorce ….
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communication first of all you both need to be on the same page of where you are and where you need to be
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scedule time to sit down without any distractions and talk it over. if you love eachother then things will work out. also pray. praying is the best thing.
i will pray for you too
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1) get a deck of cards.
2) never go to bed angry.
3) solutions to the problem have to be agreed so that 24 hours later you still both like the resolution.
4) to avoid going to bed angry use 1) above if you have too.
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If you want to work it out and are serious then consider marriage counseling. Some people say just talk but its easier sometimes to have a third party that is unbiased to mediate the conversation and focuse the conversation on what’s really important. Marriage is a serious committment and too many people let stupid little things tear it apart. You should do everything you can to fix this and tell yourself that divorce is not an option. If you can’t fix the problem, it is at that point that you consider divorce, but only after you have tried EVERYTHING to save that marriage!. Good luck and God bless.
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Well given I don’t know much about the situation, the only advice I can really give is marriage counseling. I always find that with me and my fiancee it’s easiest if I calm myself down for a while. Then, we sit down and discuss the issues. We both come to a solution that suits both our wants and needs. It’s not the easiest thing and sometimes we end up fighting about it, but that’s the only way to really get things done. Talk about it and come to a solution that works for both of you. Then you’re both happy. Well, I hope I helped a little. Good luck with everything.
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Communication. talk and try to find some middle ground for the problems.
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all marriage has ups and downs.. you could start talking, and communicate effectively. put down all that baggage you both have for each other..(resentments,insults,hurt) all of it. and when you both are finished with telling each others issues and honestly talk,you could start on working ot that and act on those so that you both can make your marriage work again. as long as both of you strive to be better then you can last.
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TALK, TALK, AND TALK SOME MORE. Be honest with each other, as love is a good start!
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Start with a good marriage counselor or if you are religious – go to your priest or pastor for help.
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You guys have to get to the root of the problem. What exactly is making you unhappy. What exactly is making him unhappy. Once you figure this out, then decide what is the cause of that particular thing, can it be changed, whose in control of changing it, and does the other see this as a problem. If the other does NOT see your "issue (unhappy thing)" as a problem then they aren’t likely to change bc in their eyes…there’s nothing wrong! I wish I knew you guys signs (Zodiac)…astrology is a trip!…it unraveled my entire life and explained why my relationship with my husband would NOT work. I’ll check back to see if you add details to your question and include you guys birthdays or if you know signs and I can shed some light here. Good Luck!
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Take 3 months vacation. Think friendship not ownership.
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Knowing that you love each other and want to work it out is a start. Now you need to see what you think your problems are and possible solutions to fix them. You can work this out together if you are both willing to try and you are both honest with each other about what you want and do not want.
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Just go to http://www.watchtower.org and order the book(its free by the way) entitled ‘The Secret to Family Happiness’. Trust me on this one, it worked for me and my family!
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Start by having a talk about how you feel, not by finding fault with the other person. Both of you should specify what you need to make you feel fulfilled and what your spouse can do to help. If you are both willing to work at changing the relationship, then agree to start working on one item at a time. At the end of each week talk together about how you are feeling. For example, if you feel unappreciated discuss what he could do to make sure you know how much he cares. There are many good books on solving problems and some even have journaling pages so you can keep track of the things you are doing.
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If you really want to work it out, conversation is the key, another way is having a third party involved, like a preacher, or a mediator, sometimes you re too close to the situation to be reasonable and rational, the role of the third party is to set rules and boundaries, and offer advice as the three of you talk. Listening is also key, listen to your partner, and he’ll listen to you. With willingness and a little time, I’m sure you’ll work it out. I hope everything works out for you, remember hear each others needs.
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Counseling with a pro.
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There are many ways to resolve some, or perhaps all, or the issues in your marriage. The first thing you have to be sure is that you want to resolve the problems.
Firstly, in a quiet time of your own, write down all of the things which are troubling you about your marriage. This will help to ensure that you keep on track when you are ready to talk about it all.
Secondly, make sure that when you and your husband are ready to talk that there are no distractions. So send the kids out to the grandparents, put the tv off and make sure the phone is unplugged. Maybe try to put some music on which reminds the two of you of the happy times you spent together.
Thirdly, and most importantly, talk to your husband about how you feel openly and honestly. You can never, ever, ever be criticised for being honest with each other (think back to your marriage vows) and try your best to keep your cool.
Ensure that you afford your husband the chance to put his point across. In every conflict there are two sides, so please be willing to hear each other out.
Don’t bring up old conflicts, try not to make generalisations (such as "you never" or "you always", be willing to confess any mistakes you have made, and above all please, please, keep your sense of humour throughout. Love is based on an ability to be honest, open, humble and through laughter.
I hope everything works out well for you.
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Life Experience, and an eternity of counselling friends.
Call a divorce lawyer.
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Lots of talk and time alone with each other..
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Well first you start by giving us the question that will help? Second if you both love each other then what’s the problem, work it out or get out period.
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If you love each other….why the problems…. you have to sit and talk things out…. I doubt you love each other THAT much…. or everything would be fine…
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