Trying to save relationship. Not sure how to do it. Any Ideas?
I have asked questions before. But anyway My boyfriend and I have been together for about 7 years. We have lived together for about 6 and a half. We have two children under the age of two.
We broke up for like a day, but he said he wanted to try and work it out. I am sure he doesn’t want to lose the kids since I would have to move almost 2 hours away. Anyway things started to get……slow. Like we were just roommates with benefits. We never yelled or anything we just kind of held things inside. Now I am not sure if he is still attracted to me. Should I try and change? I don’t wear any makeup or anything and don’t do my hair anymore. Plus gained weight after the two children. Maybe he thinks I am not girlie enough. Not sure what to do. Need to fix our relationship since I really do still love him. Please some advice.
Yeah, it sounds like you’ve lost yourself girl. However, If he loves you for who you are, that shouldn’t be the problem, but unfortunatly in today’s society with everything being focused on beauty and physical appearences, you do have to try and keep yourself looking good for your man girl. I’m not saying you’ve got to walk around with a full face of make up, but just put on a little lip gloss and maybe some mascara and a cute two piece nighty. Try to spice it up a little because sometimes things can become dull and boring in a long term relationship. I’m in a 6yr relationship and I make the effort to keep myself looking cute. Cook him a nice dinner onenight and put on some sexy music and put those babies to bed a littler early or try to get a babysitter if possible. The fact that he’s willing to work things out is a good sign that he does love you, take advantage of that. Good Luck
Yeah, it sounds like you’ve lost yourself girl. However, If he loves you for who you are, that shouldn’t be the problem, but unfortunatly in today’s society with everything being focused on beauty and physical appearences, you do have to try and keep yourself looking good for your man girl. I’m not saying you’ve got to walk around with a full face of make up, but just put on a little lip gloss and maybe some mascara and a cute two piece nighty. Try to spice it up a little because sometimes things can become dull and boring in a long term relationship. I’m in a 6yr relationship and I make the effort to keep myself looking cute. Cook him a nice dinner onenight and put on some sexy music and put those babies to bed a littler early or try to get a babysitter if possible. The fact that he’s willing to work things out is a good sign that he does love you, take advantage of that. Good Luck
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Time to talk to your partner and see what you both want from your relationship. Apart or together, you need goals for your life to work. ( finances, children, religion, marriage, romance, home )
Sounds like you are depressed and are not taking good care of yourself. Make daily goals for yourself to get dressed and look your best. Think about getting some education or work to get you out of the house and improve your selfesteem.
Check with local agencies for free couples counseling.
Good luck.
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